Who You Lovin'? Who You Wanna Be Huggin'?

Ladies... how do you feel about the theory that if a man isnt all you want him to be its because the men you pick are a direct reflection of how you view yourself? 

I ask because I've been picking men who wont love me, only want sex & wont give me 100% of themselves. I'd say they are a depiction of where i am in my life right now, i dont love myself 100% & all i talk about is sex, so i get what i speak into existence.

Just how applicable are the laws of attraction to real life attractions between two people?

Good Guy/Bad Guy=Your Guy