DISCLAIMER: IT IS MY PERSONAL OPINION THAT NO WOMAN UNDER THE AGE OF 23 SHOULD HAVE A ONE NIGHT STAND. ALL WOMEN SHOULD USE PROTECTION DURING ALL SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS.
1. DO NOT choose to have a one night stand with someone you have any kind of relationship with (i.e. ex boyfriend, friend of a friend, co-worker, etc).
Why?: Because the thrill of a one night stand lies in the fact that you'll (potentially) never see this person again... sleeping with an ex opens old wounds and a co-worker makes for some very awkward Monday morning meetings. Go somewhere that isn't in your usual list of places to hang out, chat with, pick up a hottie and make your way to your location.
2. DO NOT bring him to your house. Either go to a hotel or go to his place.
Why?: If you're not the girl who is comfortable kicking a guy out after sex, letting him come to your place is just asking for a sleepover which can get really weird, really fast. If you go to his place or a hotel, it'll blow his mind when you're all done and all gone.
3. DO NOT exchange phone numbers, BBM's, email addresses, etc!!!
Why?: You had casual, meaningless sex... What the hell is there to talk or text about? The only reason to keep open the lines of communication is to build on what was already established and the only relationship (majority of the time) that will blossom out of a one night stand is an FWB (friends with benefits).
4. DO NOT get shitfaced & go anywhere with anyone!
Why?: Drunk sex can be fun, but if you're a sip away from hugging the porcelain throne not only do you make yourself an easy target for some creep looking to take advantage of a female, but you're bound to over do it, under perform or do something you might regret based on your lowered inhibitions. You're doing this to make a memory, not forget one.
5. DO NOT have a one night stand as a reaction to a break-up or life altering event.
Why?: Because you'll always associate that one night stand with the day "he" broke up with you, the day you get fired or dropped out of beauty school. Days like that are what "Girls Night" is for, get dolled up, have a few cocktails and hang out with them, not some man who has no regard for your life and whats happening in it.
6. DO NOT do anything you're not comfortable with or have sex with someone to whom you are not attracted.
Why?: Desperation is not admirable and men can spot if from a mile away. A guy worth your time will avoid you if you appear to be desperate & a creep will take advantage of you. Whether you are trying to establish your sexual identity or simply proving a point... you are in control of your sexuality at all times. If you are impressionable enough to do something just because someone asked/demanded, you are not mature enough for sex (one night stand or otherwise).
7. DO NOT kiss!
Why?: Kissing is for lovers. You dont love this guy, you love his dick... kiss his dick!
8. DO consider NSA (No Strings Attached) hook up sites
Why?: There are sites where everyone has a common goal and that goal is to hook up with someone they dont know. There are some more legit sites than Craigslist that have a better reputation amongst the "NSA" community where you can sign up, post a profile, picture and details about what you want. It gives you the opportunity to talk to people for as long as you need to in order to build a rapport before you meet. If you prefer the old fashioned way, just get dressed and go where there will be men ;)
9. DO tell someone you trust where you are going and who you are with (even if they dont know what you're doing)
Why?: Whether you're going to meet up with someone you met online, in person or you're going out with the intentions of meeting someone to hook up with... someone you trust should know where you're going and who you are with. The reality is that you take a chance of putting yourself in harms way when you have sex with someone you dont know and in the event that you do end up in a situation you feel you cant handle, someone will know where you are if they need to pick you up or what to tell the authorities. (This scenario is more likely when meeting someone on a "hook up" site)
10. DO Use protection and take precautions! (I mean this in more ways than one)
Why?: "Better safe than sorry" is a mantra you should use in your sex life in general, but in hooking up more specifically. Always bring your own condoms (various sizes) and something (like pepper spray) to protect yourself if the guy you meet is physically intimidating or makes you uncomfortable.
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