March 14th-Steak & a BJ Day

Finally, guys a day just for you. Valentine's Day is a day where you have to spend money on stupid shit to give to women for whom you have lukewarm feelings. Roses, Candy, Jewelry, Bears, Edible Arrangements... Today is your day and all you need is 2 things! A well cooked steak and mind-blowing BJ!

You're a man, you dont care about the origin of the holiday... you dont need to know why it came about. You're not gonna ask why she's making you a steak and blowing you. You're going to close your eyes, chew & thank your lucky stars.

Here you can find a few easy recipes to share with your woman and a few tips she can use to give you a BJ meant for the king that you are.

BLOW JOB 101

(NSFW)BLOW LIKE A PRO(NSFW)

The most important thing for you is finding your comfort zone and an anatomy refresher course.

Generally, the most sensitive parts of a man’s package are:

• The head—the smooth, round part at the top.
• The frenulum—the cute little flap on the underside of the head. It’s similar to the little flappy thing under your tongue, only smaller.
• The perineum—the area between the balls and the butt.
• The balls.

What follows is how to rock a man’s world without going deep throat (That requires an entirely different tutorial). It’s certainly not the only way to give head. It may not be the best way. And it might not even be a good way if your guy likes different techniques used.

Scandal: Why Women Hate to Love to Hate Olivia Pope

Its 10pm on a Thursday night and if you have a pulse, you're watching ABC's Scandal.

I'm not here to discuss why the show is amazing. I'm here to address why people love and hate Olivia Pope.

Ok, here's an overview of the show. Olivia Pope, played by Kerry Washington (loosely based on a real person: Judy Smith) is an African American woman and crisis management professional based in Washington D.C, she is a political advisor, confidant to & mistress of caucasian President Fitzgerald "Fitz" Grant (long story short, watch the damn show).

Now, if you're still reading this, you might be thinking... "Why don't people like Olivia?", if you watch the show, you might be thinking... "Why don't people like Olivia?", if you're a woman married to or in a relationship with a man who has a wandering eye, or a man who happens to slip and fall into the vaginas of other women, you might be thinking... "I cant stand that bitch!"

Guy Code: Decoded

I need male perspective for a post I'm working on for Bitchy & Beautiful.
If you are a single, dating, engaged or married man interested in answering between 7-10 questions about your experiences in love & dating... email 20somethingsocialgirls@gmail.com :)
Thanks in advance!

(Note: All participants will be kept confidential)

Ride or Die Chick

As a 26 year old, Black woman from the Bronx, the phrase "Ride or Die Chick" is one I am all too familiar with.

If you're not someone who is familiar or engulfed in Hip Hop culture, allow me to school you really quick. (Feel free to take notes).

The phrase "Ride or Die Chick" (also known as a "Down Ass Bitch"-thanks Ja Rule) was coined by 1990's hip-hop crew The Ruff Ryders, spearheaded by rapper DMX. A "Ride or Die Chick" is a woman who sticks with her man through all circumstances, she's his biggest fan when he's doing well and she's his confidant when he's down and out. A "Ride or Die Chick" will commit a crime with/for you, bail you out of jail, write your resume, get into physical altercations with you as well as on your behalf. A "Ride or Die Chick" is the modern day Bonnie to your Clyde. (Think of every rap song with an R&B singer in between 1990-forever)

The "Ride or Die Chick" ideology is not exclusive to urban culture. Here are a list of women who one might consider a "Ride or Die Chick":

• Hillary Clinton (because Bill did have sexual relations with Monica Lewinsky)
• Tasheera Simmons (Ex-wife of rapper DMX)
• Vanessa Bryant (she didn't have to be with Kobe shooting in the gym)
• Olivia Pope (If you watch Scandal, I dont have to tell you why, if you dont watch Scandal...you're the only one.)

I digress. In many cultures the "Ride or Die Chick" is glorified. (Check out the definition according to UrbanDictionary.com).